New Year, New You?

by 21 Jan,20190 comments

New Year, New You?

Has the new year, new me positivity already lost some of its shine for you? Well worry not! You can still make goals that you can actually smash – you just need to know how! Read on to discover the five steps to setting winning goals.

Long Live the New You!

Ring all the bells, ring all the bells – 2018 is dead, long live 2019! Or so it goes.  At this time of year, after the joy and jubilation of the season’s festivities have simmered down, we all get a little bit reflective.  A little bit eager to banish the excesses and inadequacies of the past with hastily made and easily forgotten New Year’s resolutions.  We want this fresh year to be bright and shiny like never before!  We stare at our unblemished desk diaries as if looking into the pure white bliss of our souls; willing for us to make lasting, transformative change.  Each of us becomes The Little Engine That Could (“I think I can, I think I can, I think I can…”) making demands of our fragile selves that we really have no business making.


And then it happens.  The crash and burn, the slip and slide, the inevitable fall from grace.  Whether it comes one week, one month or, as in my case, one day from January 1st (What? The school run can be stressful!), all but the most bloody-minded will waver in their resolve at some point during the month.  It’s inevitable, we are only human after all.  It’s a universally acknowledged fact that gyms are busiest in January, full to bursting with optimistic Get-Fit-Quick’ers keen to show off their Christmas Fitbits (or at least so I’m told, I’m too scared to go back to mine).  By February things have settled down again leaving only the true enthusiasts to jostle over the functioning treadmills.


So, what then?  Do we allow ourselves this little blip and carry on regardless?  Or do we throw the whole thing out as futile and give up altogether? New Year’s resolutions should not be another reason to write yourself off as a failure.  They are supposed to inspire you, to encourage you and to challenge you, but that’s it.  It is not a measure of success. You can break your new year’s resolutions and still be #winning.  Some need the framework of a guide, others don’t.  There is no right or wrong way to improve your life, so long as you take it one day at a time. If that is you, then you’re in luck. I have designed a personal planning tool that breaks down your goals into bite-sized manageable chunks that you can steward along the way. A decade and a half as a project manager in Oil and Gas has taught me a thing or two about project planning, and new year’s resolutions are the ultimate life project plan!

If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.
Andrew Carnegie

Step One: Goal Setting

First you need to identify the goal.  Sounds simple enough.  This is where the self-reflection comes in.  When the midnight hour approached on 31st December 2018, were you pensive?  If so, what about?  Did you have regrets or were you simply thankful for the victories?  The thoughts that were preoccupying your mind are likely the areas you want to focus on for this year.  Career, family, friends, physical and mental health are the typical focus areas people seek to improve.  Choose something in your life that you either want to do or stop doing, rather than something to be (too nebulous).  Try to pick only one, as this increases your chance of success.


Whatever you choose, do so wisely. Your goal has to be SMART:


S – specific

M – measurable

A – attainable

R – realistic

T – time-based

Once selected, you need to translate that goal into something that resembles a tangible objective. Saying “I am going to eat healthily” is all well and good, but what does it mean?  Have you failed if you eat a single packet of crisps?  Far better to resolve that “I am going to lose 1 stone by 31st December 2019”.  Now you have something to work towards!

Step Two: Break It Down

Now that you have identified your objective, you need to break it down into bite-sized nuggets.  The prospect of losing 1 stone in 12 months may seem daunting, but when broken down into just over 1lb per month, it suddenly seems manageable.  Slice and dice however suits your goal best.  It can be broken down chronologically, or into other categories that make sense for you.  The important thing is to break this overall goal into smaller targets that are easier to visualise.

Step Three: The Devil is in the Detail

For each of your mini targets, how do you plan to get there?  Failing to plan is planning to fail, or something like that.  List the resources that you will need to make it happen; time, people, money – they all matter.  For each, think what you need to do to activate those resources and to make them work effectively for you.  If your plan is to lose 5lbs in the first quarter of the year and then 1lb a month after that, then you will need to revolutionise my diet and exercise habits to kick-start that weight loss.  You will need to brave the gym, take new classes, and factor the additional cost into your monthly budget.  You may need to rope in a friend to join you, so that you can cheer each other on when things get tough.  The point is don’t just dream it, plan it!

Step Four: It Only Counts if You Count It

They say that a watched pot never boils, but I beg to differ. If you have made a commitment to your resolution, then you have to steward your progression towards it along the way.  How else will you keep yourself honest?  That is why it helps to have a SMART resolution, so that you can find a quantifiable way to monitor your performance throughout the year.  You can easily track that you are on target to lose 5lb by April.  It would be much harder to assess whether you’re  still “eating healthily” if you’d wolfed down a discarded hamburger from your kid’s Happy Meal that one time…

Step Five: Just Do It

Now that all the planning is concluded, it is time for action.  If you said you were going to work out more regularly, don’t wait till Monday to start.  Nothing will change unless you actively change it.  So, get up and get moving, your time is now!


Simply try to focus on doing the things that will bring you joy.  And remember that you are already fabulous, so just continue to shine! Enjoy this new year, whether you resolve to or not, for it is entirely yours to own.

Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.
Pablo Picasso

At Aurora Wellness we are all about self-improvement & productivity. To discover ways in which you can maximise your full potential and learn skills to grow your business, contact us for information about our online productvity programmes for female entrepreneurs.

Click here to get a copy of the Aurora Reflection & Projection Guide 2019, to help you set winning goals!

At Aurora Wellness we are all about self-improvement & productivity. To discover ways in which you can maximise your full potential and learn skills to grow your business, contact us for information about our upcoming online productvity course for female entrepreneurs

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Click here to get a copy of the Aurora Reflection & Projection Guide 2019, to help you set winning goals!


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