Making Hard Decisions Easier
Being a grown up means being faced with difficult decisions on a fairly regular basis. But sometimes it seems impossible to know what the right thing to do is. Take the stress out of deciding by employing one of these trusted techniques next time you’re faced with a tough choice to make.
Adulting Is Not For Wimps
Adulting can be tough sometimes. From the time we are asked to choose our GCSEs and A Levels, life seems like a never ending stream of BIG decisions. What do you want to be when you grow up? What university do you want to go to? Should you marry him or stay single? Kids or career? It doesn’t stop! By now you have no doubt found your favourite methods for making those tough choices, be it talking it through with trusted friends or tossing a coin. But just in case you are an occasional decision-making procrastinator like me, I thought that I’d share some of the best tips for making those tough life choices a little bit easier.
Decisions are the frequent fabric of our daily design.
Some decisions are simply too big to carry alone. When I was deciding whether or not to leave the security of the full time, well paid job at the company I had worked for since graduation, it seemed that no decision was right. If I stayed nothing would change, if I left I risked everything. Then I had a nervous breakdown and, after counselling, the decision became a lot clearer. But it shouldn’t take a breakdown to prompt you to decide! Keeping this decision to myself proved dangerous, it made it seem bigger than it truly was. The first thing that you should do when wrestling with something major, is to seek the advice of the people you trust. They can often prove to be a helpful sounding board when you have lots of ideas buzzing around in your head. But this comes with a caveat. You have to be very careful who you choose. Your mum may be your best friend, but she might not be the best person to advise you about your next career move. Your work husband might be fun, but perhaps you should talk to your actual husband before you get that tattoo? Whoever you choose, ensure that they are going to remain impartial, objective and have your best interests at heart.
Popular with the business set, the good old SWOT analysis is a good way to identify the pros and cons with each decision. It can be useful to list out the Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats for each decision path. Visualising these side by side can often show up things that you missed. At any rate, it’ll make you think hard about the pros and cons of each avenue so that you are fully armed with all relevant information before you make your big decision.
Mind Maps and Mood Boards
In a similar vein, taking time to get a little wishful with your thinking is no bad thing. I am an old cynic at heart, so when my HR manager cousin suggested that I make a mood board to map out my future, I thought that it would be a waste of time. But I did it anyway, just to shut her up more than anything. I spent a couple of hours opening up my mind to envisage how my life would look in an ideal world. I then let the crafter in me free, cutting out images and words from newspapers and magazines that represented my visions. I dutifully cut them out and stuck them on a sheet of A3 cardboard, rolled it up and put it away. The other week, prompted by a friend, I got it out. And I was pleasantly surprised to see just how much of that vision was already taking shape, and in only a matter of months. Say what you like, but there is great power in putting your dreams out there. Having them written down or visualised in some way certainly seeps into your subconscious and spurs you on to achieve them.
Or gut feel. Humans are highly intuitive creatures and we generally have a feel for what is right and what is wrong. The trouble we have with this is that wisdom and experience often dictate that we should ignore our instincts and apply reason and sound logic to every situation instead. Having experienced what I have over the last few years though, I am learning that it is dangerous to dismiss that gut feeling as purely nonsense. If you do not feel comfortable in a situation, it is better to get out than stay for fear of offending. If I had listened to my gut instead of suppressing my emotions, I would have left the rat race years ago. You can do all the agonising and analysing that you want, but in the end you have to live with the decision that you make. Make sure that you choose the path that puts your mind most at ease.
So there you have it. Nothing revolutionary but hopefully a helpful reminder nonetheless. The most important thing to note is that you are never alone with the decisions that you have to make, especially the tough ones. Your friends, family and the team at Aurora Wellness are always on hand to make sure that you make the decision that is right for you.
I am a firm believer in the old adage “love comes first”. Self-love is the foundation of all love, but for many it is the most elusive. I am passionate about helping people to love themselves, so that they can be free to live their best lives.